Happiness to me is a flow… it’s a relaxation into accepting and being ourselves regardless of what is happening externally.
So how would I describe unhappiness?
Thoughts, belief patterns, perceptions arising that create sensations (feelings / emotions) that we are not comfortable with, that we are not enjoying, which leads to resistance of what is and a subtle wanting to move away from them.
So if yesterday I was “not happy” and today “I am happy” ~ even though my outer circumstances have not changed ~ all that has happened is that I have stopped fighting with myself … my perception has shifted.
This is all an internal process ~ there is a shift of attention from focusing on external sources as the cause of our unhappiness to bringing attention and awareness to the internal mechanism that is operating within us … the perceptions / thoughts / belief patterns that are there.
By relaxing into this, observing what is really happening within us and taking full responsibility for how we feel, think and respond ~ this is the beginning of transformation, not through trying to change external circumstances to become happy, but by consciously bringing attention and awareness to seeing what is within us … being with it … accepting it and taking full responsibility for ourselves.
Take a moment now to notice any subtle tension in the body, invite it to be there and just hold it, tenderly, welcome it as a friend … embrace it!
In the following video I speak about the self-acceptance model that I use when working with clients … the more we accept ourselves, the happier we become!
Blessings!
Thank you for watching and I wish you a Beautiful day!
